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An alpha male is the dominant male in a community or group. Zoologists and related scientists typically use the term to describe top-ranking male animals, but people also apply it to human beings, typically referring to adult men rather than boys. In either case, an animal or person with this label usually is an excellent leader who is well-respected or feared, and who receives social privileges, such as better access to food or more attention from potential mates.

Main Characteristics

In general, an alpha male is physically strong or well built, and he has some traits that others — especially females — find beautiful or attractive. He is not mean, per se, but he is willing to fight aggressively, physically if need be, for what he has and wants, and to maintain his status. Most of the time, he is confident and is very capable of protecting the others in the group.

Some additional characteristics apply for people. Many individuals associate being the dominant male with money, because a solid financial status usually lets a person engage in more activities, meet more people or acquire things others want and admire. Potential partners also usually like to see that a man is in a good financial position before they commit to a relationship with him. Men with this title typically are very well groomed, like being the center of attention, act both suave and cocky, excel at sports and are able to get along with many different types of people. Traditionally, others might usually describe him as a "lady's man" or a "man's man," indicating how most women are attracted to him, and how most men want to be like him and look to him for behavioral cues.

Rise to Status

Much of the time, alpha males achieve their status as a result of using their physical strength to overpower weaker competitors. They also sometimes use superior intelligence to outwit others, which is very common with men due to the fact that many cultures do not promote open violence — sometimes this manifests as verbal threats or psychological manipulation. A male may also fall into a position of leadership and authority by default, such as if the other males in the group die.

Challenges

In many species, becoming a leading male does not guarantee that an animal can keep that position. Young, strong or ambitious challengers often try to take over the role, usually by physically fighting for it. These confrontations can take an enormous toll on the alpha, who must constantly be on the defense, and in nature, injuries gained can be fatal. Death usually doesn't occur with men, but it can if a fight severely escalates, and many individuals simply are not willing to take on the risks and stress associated with the role, despite the benefits that are possible.

Stepping Down

When one of these males gets older, he might willingly step down as the official leader of the group. A good example is an aging businessman who resigns so that his top executive or main apprentice can take over, but this behavior happens in the wild, as well. It usually occurs because, on some level, he knows that someone else can do a better job or because he no longer wants the responsibility of leadership due to health or personal reasons.

Sexual Behavior

Sexual behavior for a dominant male depends to a great extent on the social behavior of the exact species to which he belongs. Some animals, such as wolves and gibbons, form pair relationships that can be lifelong, and those in a pair generally do not mate with anyone else. Other animals, such as bonobo monkeys and elephant seals, are known for their promiscuity. Many other species fall somewhere in the middle, with an animal having more than one partner but choosing one that he prefers over the others.
With great physical stature, attractiveness and leadership abilities, these males are in a perfect position to take their pick of the available partners, who tend to be more willing to mate with them than with other members in the group. They also usually are able to control the ability of other males to mate, which makes a larger number of potential partners available, and which makes it easier for them to form several sexual relationships at a time.
Some zoologists see the genetically-influenced desire to mate as a major reason why males in a group exhibit alpha characteristics, and it is certainly true that being able to be selective about or have multiple partners directly affects the number of offspring and the genetic traits that get passed on. Even so, this concept gets a little muddy with people, because the reasons why being the “top dog” makes someone happy are often psychologically and culturally complex. Men often have other reasons for trying to be dominant, such as wanting to impress others or climb the corporate ladder.
In many societies, it is not acceptable to have more than one sexual partner at a time, usually for moral, religious or economic reasons. Additionally, many women prefer sensitive partners who are willing to discuss their feelings, traits not usually associated with dominance. As a result, alpha men who “sleep around” aren’t always free from criticism. Experts have questioned whether these individuals can retain mates because of the way their natural drive conflicts with other social constructs.

Beta Males

The majority of species feature beta males, who essentially are second in command. They help the dominant male do whatever it is he wants or needs to do, and in some species, the beta takes over if the leader dies or can no longer fulfill his duties. In this sense, they can be considered “in training,” but there is no guarantee that they will become the new alpha.
The term “beta” does not have quite the same connotation for men as it does for other animals. People often use it to describe someone who is the exact opposite of an alpha — that is, a man who is whiny, gives up easily, is emotionally very sensitive and who lacks physical attractiveness or strength. It is sometimes used as a euphemism for the stereotypical “nerd,” who generally is socially inept and who is overpowered easily.

Female Counterpart

Dominant females in a group are alpha females. They often pair and mate with the dominant males, usually leading alongside them. Sometimes, however, they assume complete leadership for the group, depending on the species and whether there are any males available who could assert a degree of authority. Although they can rise to this position through physical, emotional or verbal force, they sometimes do so simply because an alpha male has selected them as a mate, developing leadership by association. A powerful man, for example, might have a “trophy wife,” whom others respect and follow just because she is married to the alpha.

 Becoming an alpha male is one of the highest achievements a man can ever have. Its not just about learning how to be smooth with the ladies (but that’s also part of it), there is so much more to the Alpha male lifestyle. Its all about living a life full of fulfillment and self actualization. An alpha male lives inside all men, its what makes us manly as men. Its the Big Difference between us and the ladies. And women love it! They find it so irresistible. Its what really attracts them to men. A woman will say she wants a man who buy her flowers and listens to her stories and cares and bla bla bla (all that sissy stuff) but at the end of the day she will fall for the alpha male (Usually found in Badboys) and break all her  rules. This is because for women attraction is not in the head; its in the heart. Its how they are wired – To fall for Alpha Males – And they can’t help it. This is why  you want to become an alpha male.

 25 Traits of an Alpha male:

1. An Alpha male is very comfortable with himself. He always radiates confidence. He does not fear anyone, he does not really care how people think of him. Confidence is him. He knows he is more important than anyone else in his life.
2.Is very passionate in life. He knows what he loves to do and follows his dreams. A true Alpha male has goals and ambitions, and really high ones. He follows these to the ultimate end, and ends up living a fulfilled life. (And women love passionate men with ambition. They see these kind of men becoming very successful in life and in their subconcious minds this is a qualifying factor in choosing a mate that will be able to provide for their future kids.)
3. Failure is only a minor setback for a real Alpha Male. Its only part of the process, he is learning. He is moving. He will always bounce back from failure, learn from the experience and move ahead with life. Nothing holds him back, after all, he is the Alpha male. Nothing can put him down. This is how he overcomes the challenges in his life.
4. He is always composed. An alpha male never loses composure, he is always himself, thoughtful and calculated. He won’t be carried away in emotional spasms.
5. Driven. A real Alpha male is very self- driven and self disciplined. Once he decides his target, all his attention will be at achieving his goal. He will do everything persistently to achieve what he wants. This is also why Alpha males drive women crazy, they are men of their own, they don’t need to be told what they should do. Women prefer men who make the decisions.
6. High morals and values. A true Alpha male is not what we will call a ‘loose’ man. He has high moral principles. He is not abusive or arrogant and does not look down upon others. Many people confuse Alpha males and Bullies. But generally, while bullies are very agressive on the outside, alpha males are very calm, calculated and controlled people.
7. An Alpha male is a natural leader. He is always looked up upon to provide direction when needed.
8. An Alpha male is a Problem Solver. In a company or organization, he will always be put in a challenging position and because of this, he will be highly regarded and compensated. He will always be the best at what he does.
9. Dress- Code- Smart. Not that he really cares what anyone thinks of how he dresses; that is not very important to him. But he still dresses the best way possible, always. Its just part of his nature, after all, he wants the best in life! He doesn’t have to but he knows he should.
10. He believes in growth. He knows that change is an internal process and takes time. He does not blame anyone for his mistakes because he knows that he has the power to make his life better and become a better man. Life for him is all about constant growth. This is the real essence of a man living a life of purpose. Every successful man in history knew this. That life is learning process. It is only an arrogant person who thinks they know it all. Humble yourself and learn!
11. With women he always poses a challenge. No, he is not chosen by women, he CHOOSES them! He does not throw himself at women and start acting needy with women. For him its the other way round. They really have to impress him and earn his attention.
12. A True Alpha male is not bossy. Not at all. He likes to listen to others’ opinions. If he is in a position of leadership he will let everyone share their thoughts and collectively find the solution. That’s why his co- workers love him! His team always wins.
13. He is not afraid to face his faults or admit when he is wrong. For a real Alpha male, there is nothing wrong with admitting when he has done something wrong. Its all about moving on with life, finding a solution, moving forward. If he wronged someone, he will politely admit and apologise, without making a big deal out of it, then move on to the next best thing.
14. He does not have to prove himself. An alpha male is being of very high self esteem, he does not need anyone’s approval to make him feel better about himself.
15. Alpha males are very clever, smart and cunning people. He’s got a real keen mind. He will assess situations and find the best logical solutions. In business alpha males do very well, their analytical skill and keen mind goes a long way.
16. Dominant, not aggressive, Alpha males also posess superior social skills.
17. Social behaviour – Hang out mostly with other alpha males. A true Alpha male finds the most value in hanging out with others like him. He also finds growth in doing this by learning from others who are better than him at one thing or another. That is why he never fails in life, he surrounds himself with people who are either like him or better achieved than him. Those are his company.
18. Physically fit. Alpha males are into healthy living and proper eating. They workout regularly, this also helps them become more focused on their goals and ambitions. This is why most Alpha’s are well built and all masculine.
19. Optimistic. Alpha males will always see the positive side of things and make the best out of what they have. A true Alpha male knows that in every problem there lies therein an opportunity. They just have to find it.

Body Language
20. Alpha males talk slowly. They never rush things, they are always in control. They have a way of having there audience eat at their every word. They know they are important and when they talk they command this importance.
21. They walk slowly, not not lazily. There is a difference. Alpha males are very controlled people. They are not always in a rush like everyone else. An Alpha male will be very disciplined to be on time or earlier for a meeting and well prepared. He will therefor have enough time to observe and think through his strategy.
22. Really Good Communicators. The alpha male is a great communicator both verbal and non-verbal. He shows his feelings through positive body language and is not afraid to show his sexual side. Women love this too – Men who are not wussies at flirting and showing their sexuality. It is not about telling a woman that you love her. Its about Expressing it in body Language and letting her read it with her subconscious mind.
23. Witty. Alpha males have a high sense of humor, they always live on the fun side of life. Its never always too serious fo them.
24. Alpha males know that they are important. When you call them (Unlike Beta males) they will take their time to turn their head and focus on you. You always have to prove worthy of their attention.
25. Alpha males Demonstrate Strength. The kind of strength that will make a woman believe that she is safe with him and that he can protect her when it comes to that. Women are generally the weaker sex, and always look for comfort in Alpha males; men who are dominant.

1.  Be confident. This cannot be overstated. If you think highly of yourself and believe unquestionably in your own capabilities, men and women alike will respond to you. Do not confuse confidence with arrogance. Confidence demonstrates quiet inner strength, surety, and reliability. Arrogance is just low self-esteem turned outwards, and perception people will have see is that of a hollow, insecure man, the very antithesis of the alpha male.
   
   
2. Assume your position. When you walk into a room as an alpha male, you simply know other people will listen to and respect what you have to say. If you doubt it, so will every other person in the room.
   
   
   
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   Use humor to your advantage. That does not be the clown of the room, but that you should be able to smile with genuine pleasure, to laugh at yourself, even to playfully laugh at others without seeming sarcastic or spiteful. Think of that commercial for after-shave lotion, where the actor playing an exaggerated alpha male says, “Look at your man—now look at me. Sadly, he’s not me, but he can smell like he’s me!”
   
   
   
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   Let your body do the talking. The way you carry yourself speaks volumes to those around you, without you even making a sound. Your posture, your hand gestures, your stance—all of it sends signals to those around you about your place in the world. You want those signals to be strong and confident, not protective and small.
   
   
   
   • Practice being what you want to be. Look for situations where there are people gathered, and walk into the room proudly. If you don’t feel it yet, recall something you did well in the past, and fills you with deserved pride, let that feeling carry you into the room.
   • Learn the art of body language. There are very specific cues that leaders use, and followers respond to.
     • Steepling shows a great deal of confidence. Make the steeple by pressing your fingertips of both hands together, with palms separated. The higher the steeple, the more confidence this signals—but don’t go too high. If the tips of your fingers touch your mouth, you’re now signaling lack of confidence. In a two-way conversation, the higher steeple generally belongs to the man in charge of the conversation.
     • Hands behind back. Because this is an attitude of exposure, you show courage, power, and confidence. By holding your hands behind your back, you signal your openness to listening.
   • The eyes have it. Looking people in the eyes is very powerful, and can be very difficult if you're not used to it.
   • Look at the person you're talking to, from one eye to the other, then down at their mouth. This keeps your eyes moving, yet still focused on your conversation partner.
     • Thumbs out! If you put your hands in your pocket, thumbs out, that signals confidence, and a little cockiness.
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   Don’t be afraid to fill the room with your presence. Stand with strong posture, use expansive gestures, and look relaxed and comfortable in your surroundings.
   
   
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   Listen. The alpha male, the true leader, spends more time listening than speaking. Listen actively and attentively, and people will respond. The more you listen without judgement, the more people will open up to you, and may even tell you things they never tell anybody. This is because they trust you innately—a key trait of the alpha male.
   
   
   
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   Watch others. One key way to learn how to be an alpha male is to emulate other alpha males.
   
   
   
   • Watch how they talk, how they stand, and how they act. Alpha males tend to have a straight posture and walk around with ease and confidence.
   • Watch how they look. Their hair, their clothing. Alpha males are interested in man's fashion and they know how to use it to make themselves look more attractive.
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   Join a gym and get fit. Staying in shape will not make you an alpha male—that must come from the inside—but it will help with your health and well-being. It also sends another signal: the man who takes good care of himself can take care of others, too.
   
   
   
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   Be honest. Some feel that alpha males will lie and cheat to get what they want, but this only applies to men who are anything but alpha males. If you find you must trick someone into thinking you’re worth their time and energy, it’s actually evidence that you aren’t. Make sure you earn everything you get by adopting a policy of radical honesty. Be exactly who you are at all times; everyone else can take you or leave you.
   
   
   
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    Dress well. Try to look better than the guys around you so that you stand out. For example, wear patterns, collared shirts, nice pants, and possibly a tie. Don’t wear shirts that advertise a brand name or your favorite band; you want to advertise yourself.
    
    
    • Dressing well does not mean dressing up, necessarily. Your clothes should fit you well, should be comfortable, and should be appropriate for the situation. Remember—clothes are window dressing. If you exude confidence and strength, and command respect by your presence, your clothes will be secondary.
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    Learn how to flirt. Knowing how to forge a romantic connection is essential to being seen as an alpha male. Being confident, accomplished, and attractive doesn’t necessarily mean that you’ve got what it takes to interact with a potential mate, but will provide you a huge advantage.
    
    
    
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    Develop new skills. By learning new skills and developing new abilities, you keep your mind and body sharp and in shape. It helps you develop a well-rounded skill set that will make you the go-to guy when people have questions. Become a man not just of style, but of substance by studying things that interest you, and becoming conversant and practiced in each idiom.
    
    
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    Above all, be a leader. This means not only taking charge of a situation, but doing it well. Start in your immediate surroundings by being a leader in the workplace, helping your team perform, or even asserting yourself as your dog’s pack leader. Practice being the kind of leader that people will want to follow—and not just the first one who volunteered for the job.
    
    
    
    
    
     
    "What's all this stuff about being a "cocky/funny" "Alpha" male? Is it true that "busting" on a woman and being "Alpha" is what it really takes to get the kind of hot women most men really want?"
    
    Look: there is nothing wrong, per se, with being cocky or commanding or challenging with a woman. Hell, I even gave advice on exactly how to do this way back in 1988 when I wrote my original book, How To Get The Women You Desire Into Bed .
    
    But being cocky and sarcastic, by itself , is not going to get you into a woman's arms or her bed, unless you happen to already be so good looking that she feels her naughty parts tingle just by looking at you .
    
    What being cocky and teasing a woman a little can do is get you past her initial, "Is this just another loser guy?" screening tests. It will get her attention, and hold it, for a little while. It will get you past her first set of screens and keep you talking with her, for a little while .
    
    But then, what do you do? Then, what do you talk about?
    
    Well, you need to be able to lead the conversation into the topics and themes that are most likely to capture and lead her imagination and emotions.
    
    So you had better learn to drop the joking fairly quickly, and introduce those themes within the first 10 minutes of talking, or any woman good looking enough to have the choice will simply move on!
    
    Doesn't that just make sense?
    
    Leaders: Not Alpha "Boys!"
    Now, let's clear the next point up: It is not that women (at least the half-way emotionally healthy ones) like "Alpha" men, at least as defined by these "gurus" as men who are loud, pushy, and full of themselves.
    
    The reality is that humans, male and female alike, respond to leadership . And leadership has little or nothing to do with silly, teenage, juvenile posturing and high school games.
    
    
    
    
    

    Leadership is about having a twin set of skills that balance and complement each other.
    
    1- Being able to strongly guide and set a strong direction.
    2- Listening to the other person to find out where they are at and what moves them.
    
    This is the ideal combination that, in fact, can make you powerfully attractive to women , and here's why:
    
    Nice Guy vs. Jerk -- The False Choice Most Guys Wind Up Making!
    The problem is, we guys are given a false choice between two bad extremes, both of which can screw us up.
    
    1- Be the "nice guy"
    The problem with nice guys is, they not only listen to a woman to find out where she is at , but they lose themselves in the woman's emotions . So, if she is upset, the nice guy becomes upset too . If she is a little bit anxious about proceeding further, sexually, the nice guy gets anxious himself, mistaking her anxiety for his own! He doesn't just listen; he loses himself in the woman. And of course, romantically, this spells disaster!
    
    2- Be the "jerk"
    Now, jerks have no problem setting and holding a strong direction . The problem is, they don't care at all about how hard they have to step all over a woman's feelings to do so . So they wind up either attracting very damaged women , or damaging the women they do attract , bringing out the worst sides of even relatively healthy women . To win, the jerk has to make other people lose. And most of us are quite naturally repelled by such a bad choice!
    
    Leadership: The True Skill And Challenge!
    The true skill set is being able to keep your own desire and intent strong, while at the same time recognizing, listening to, and gathering information about the women you wish to attract.
    
    When you can make women feel both listened to and led, both recognized and guided , then you will carry a "vibe" about you that no busting, sarcastic, "Alpha" loudmouth could ever even hope to imitate, much less realize and enjoy.
    
    Don't get me wrong. You can and should do all of this with and through a sense of fun and humor. But once the joking stops, the substance has to begin . And that substance is something much different than what these "Alpha" gurus have been telling you.

    
    One More Hidden Secret Of The True "Alpha" Male!
    There is one more deeply hidden, seldom realized secret of true leadership that attracts even the hottest women in droves.
    
    It's the courage and self-acceptance to step into the world and try on new ways of thinking and acting, without any absolute certainty of success .
    
    Most people go through life terrified of making mistakes . They want certainty and absolute guarantees of success before they will even take a real step. Even if they are trying something they have never done before , they want to be certain first before they make a move.
    
    Doesn't that describe the reality, beneath the surface, of most people we know?
    
    So they wind up never being certain and never moving , because no one can know for sure what will happen prior to leaving the starting gate .
    
    That is why, when trying new ways of acting with women, it is much better to balance any fear with the simple thought, "Not dangerous, just new and different for me. Not failing, just something new and unfamiliar."
    
    Instead of trying to pump yourself up with false certainty (or by putting others down), just balance any fear with a quiet, natural acceptance that recognizes that the new and different always has some element of giving up a little bit of control . Instead of having to win, take on the belief that says, "I will either get what I want, or learn what I need to in order to get what I want or better the next time".
    
    This will help you carry a calm, balanced vibe, no matter what new effort with women you decide to take on. And you'll never have to put another person down in order to feel better about yourself.
    
    Women will sense that vibe in you and love it!