“Where can I meet men?” This question is asked at least once in three months by every single woman. For many women, this question became rhetorical a long time ago. Therefore, instead of searching for an answer, they keep their rake jumping – meaning that they repeat their mistakes over and over again.
“Where can I meet men?” asks a woman. Then, she dresses up and goes with her girlfriend(s) to a trendy restaurant or lounge on Friday or Saturday night. What she will see there? Nothing except other lonely, dressed up women with fake laughs and desperate eyes that are pretending to have a great time while envying those several happy couples who happened to mix into this female paradise. To make women feel better, men make the same mistake. They wonder where to meet women and instead of thinking creatively, they go to sport bars again and again.
Let’s think here. If you would like a job as a nurse, would you apply at a restaurant? If you are a chef, would you search for a position at a hospital? Everyone knows that job searching is a process and needs to have a strategic approach. Guess what? Dating is the same process. It needs to have some thinking and strategy if you would like to have good results.
In order to find out where to meet men, you need to determine what kind of men you are interested in, and then determine where they can be found. Remember, fish where the fish are.
BEST PLACES TO MEET MEN
1) Good restaurants during business lunches. That’s where you can see many men 
either by themselves or with other men. I’m you can be creative enough to start a conversation and end it with giving him your number.
Women make a huge mistake when they go “hunting” at restaurants during dinner time. Most men go to dinner with a date, so you have to be super skilled to switch his attention from his date to you.
2) Sports clubs – forget about classes. You should go to the weights area. Remember that sometimes it is a great idea to be powerless. You can always pretend that you don’t have the slightest idea on how to adjust a machine.
3) Sports bars are golden places to meet single men. The wealthier the area code, the better quality of men. You can always say that you love playing pool.
There is a trick that really works. Practice playing pool until you become fairly good. Then, go to the sports bar of your choice and pretend that you would really like to learn. With your eyes wide open, say that you love playing but you are really bad at it. Make several really bad hits and then win. Your opponent will be incredibly impressed with your learning abilities and most likely won’t let you go without getting your number.
4) Business Conferences – there are a lot of single men who are very happy to meet a nice, professional lady.
5) Electronic stores – just as women like to go shopping at apparel, beauty, and accessory stores, men like go to electronic stores. There is nothing wrong with asking a fellow shopper for advice on which cable you should choose to connect your brand new laptop to your TV. Just make sure that there are no sales people in sight.
6) Online – this is the most common way nowadays. However, it does not have a “preview” option like other places. Even though you might exchange tons of pictures and phone calls before you meet, the first date with a new online man will be partially a blind date.
5 PLACES TO MEET RICH MEN
These places require either connections or investments from your side. However, if it works, 
you will most likely hit the jackpot.
1) Five Start Sport Clubs – gyms where wealthy men go to not only work out, but also socialize and do business.
2) Yacht Clubs – it speaks for itself. If a man belongs to a yacht club and owns a boat, he might be considered pretty well doing.
3) Golf Clubs in wealthy neighborhoods
4) Planes – first class.
There is this story about one lady who lost her job and got absolutely broke. After looking for a job and getting turned down multiple times, she made a bold move. She went to her friend and borrowed twenty thousand dollars. Then, she bought eight international tickets (it was US – Europe, but we won’t mention which country).
She met her future husband on flight number seven. He happened to own a huge internet business and not only married her soon, but also let her manage a significant part of his company.
5) Sports Event – front row seats.
Where can you meet men? Even though there are lots of different ideas, there is no universal cookie cutter for everyone. You have to figure out which “breed” you are looking for and then go to places where they go. There are skiing resorts, singles cruises, dancing classes, business courses – anything you want, just name it.
The most important part is not where to meet men, but how to meet them. You have to be self centered, happy, calm, and positive and you will meet the most unusual man in the most unusual and unexpected place.
Guaranteed!
What Men Want
*Attention – this article is written for WOMEN by a woman who asked the question “what do men want?” over 3000 times. Different men were asked – street-smart, educated, drop outs, self-made millionaires, poor, wealthy, Caucasian, African-American, Hispanic, Asian, men who live in US, and men who live in Europe, men from 21 to men in their 60s. All answers were boiled down to several main key points.
If women knew for sure what men want, the “men code” would be cracked a long time ago. In this case, all women would be happily married by now, or at least engaged to the man of their dreams who would propose on one knee with dozens of roses and a five carat ring. Doesn’t it sound great? Now, please stop daydreaming and get back to reality.
While each and every man is different and has his own needs, when it comes to dating and relationships, there are lots of similarities because men were wired in a particular way from generation to generation. Sure, they all have their preferences for hot sex, one night stands, or just casual encounters. However, when it comes to dating a woman who can be considered “wife material”, then the requirements are shifted dramatically. Even the most open minded playboys become more conservative and old fashioned.
What Men Want – 15 main aspects.
1. Men want to be with a woman who is…A WOMAN – feminine, gentle and natural. Sure, all males react to “bright packaging” and get magnetized when they see Alpha-Females. However, the truth is that most men don’t want the pressure of handling those Alphas on a regular basis. Alpha females are fireworks and fireworks are great for holidays; not for every day life. For the long term, day to day, men want to be with a soft, sweet woman who they would feel very comfortable with.
2. Men want to be with a woman who will commit. Sounds crazy, doesn’t it? We all know how difficult it is for a man to make up his mind in regular life. Yes, it is hard for HIM to commit. However, he wants to know that SHE will commit and eventually belong to him and not to other men.
3. Men want to be with a woman who is FUN. Men love to laugh and have a great time (like women don’tJ). That is why a great sense of humor is very desirable. Life is hard enough outside of relationships, so why make it more difficult? When a relationship is not fun, it becomes a chore.
4. Men want to have great sex, preferably the “sex of their dreams.” Each and every man would like to be a sex hero and treated accordingly. Men want sex to be unforgettable, creative, and varied. However, they don’t want it as a “free gift without a purchase” meaning to have it too much, too soon. The excitement must be built in order to get to the “full menu.” If the thrill of the chase is gone too soon, sex becomes just…sex. Sex is an incredibly important part of the relationship. However, relationships that are built on sex solely do not work.
5. Men want to be with good looking women. Each man wants to be proud of how his woman looks. Men are very pleased when other men like you. It makes you “a prize” in their eyes. When we say “a good looking, beautiful, hot woman”, we don’t mean beautiful by magazine and TV standards. In reality, each and every man has his own definition of good looks. Good looking means a polished, toned, healthy woman who loves herself and takes good care of herself.
6. Men want to be with an understanding woman who would also be able to acknowledge all their great qualities and highlight them as often as possible. Men are not looking for a flattery. They are looking for the pure truth (and if the truth sound like flattery, who cares?).
7. Men want to be with women who don’t play “hard to get.” They don’t have to play; they must be hard to get. Remember, the more investments a man will make into a woman, the more he will appreciate her. By investments we mean time, attentions, emotions, and of course materialistic things such as gifts and money.
8. Men want to be with women who are drama and pressure free. A relationship is supposed to be a nice, quite harbor, not a stormy ocean.
9. Men want to be with women who are emotional baggage free. Nobody is interested to date and be in a relationship with memories of beloved exes.
10. Men want to be with women who not only have their own opinions, but are also not afraid to express them. There is a word “NO” and men don’t mind hearing it sometimes (not too often though).
11. Men want to be with women who don’t make the first move. Of course, there is nothing wrong to do something that would make a man make this move.
12. Men want to be with women who have boundaries and don’t take any bad behavior from anyone. Women who go all the way to please men with anything are not usually on the “wife material” list.
13. Men want to be with women who are supportive. We all know the famous expression that there is a smart woman behind every successful man.
14. Men want to be with women who respect their buddies and their time together.
15. Men want to be with women who keep them excited and thrilled. Men are hunters and they need to participate in constant chases and hunts. If you can provide it “in the house”, then they won’t need to “outsource.”
The points written above highlight what “men think they want”. However,
Dating Younger Men
Dating younger men is not about dating guys three to five years younger. Nowadays it is not considered an age difference at all.
This article discusses dating men who are seven or more years younger.
There is no universal recipe for dating younger men because each and every case is unique whole each and every younger man is different.
The biggest misconception about dating younger men is that they will make you feel younger.
There are two different ways that younger men can make you feel:
1) You might feel much younger, full of energy, and ready to rock. You might feel that you are back in your twenties or thirties with a happy, careless lifestyle and free attitude.
2) You might feel much older than you really are, too self conscious, and insecure. Your age will be highlighted, therefore driving you crazy.
Dating younger men can get tricky. Sometimes looking at how fun, careless, and free your young friend is, you think about how heavy your real problems are and when you look at his smooth skin and flat abs, the only things you can think about are getting a laser, botox, and a personal trainer.
DATING YOUNGER MEN IS A GOOD IDEA
1. If you are looking for a great, young, fun sexual life,
then dating younger men can be your kind of thing. Older men can be
absolutely amazing. However, statistics prove that the percentage of
older men who can keep up with younger men in bed is insignificant.2. If you would like to forget about your problems and leave your troublesome kids, intense career, numerous bills, broken heart, and complicated exes behind for at least a little while.
3. If you would like to take a break from your serious, grown up life and what you really want is to laugh, “chill”, and have fun.
4. If you are financially stable and if you have no problems with paying for yourself or picking up the whole tab while maintaining your usual lifestyle.
5. If you can accept that the most generous treat your young boyfriend can afford is coffee or a drink with house liquor during happy hour.
6. If you can handle the idea that a cheeseburger and fries are not a splurge once a month (after existing work outs and no carb diets), but a “new, romantic dinner meal”.
7. If you are looking to have kids (and potentially more than one).
8. If you secure enough about the idea that your young boyfriend is surrounded with young,
hot girls everywhere he goes. There are girls at his college, job, gym, and clubs.
9. If you enjoy going back to clubbing and night scene.
10. If you can handle late nights and can keep up with unique activities such as snowboarding and waterskiing.
11. If age is not your sensitive topic and you can handle jokes about “being old.”
12. If you are not looking for the deep conversations that men of your or an older age can carry.
13. If you are sick and tired of book smart men with twisted minds.
14. If you admire his young physique, white teeth, flat abs, strong muscles, and smooth skin and if you don’t feel intimidated by all those qualities.
15. If you don’t care that he plays the same video games that your son does.
16. If you don’t care that you are the same age with his mother
DATING YOUNG MEN IS NOT A GOOD IDEA
2. If you have numerous problems and all your thoughts are about how to take care of them.
3. If you need to talk about your problems, get heart, and get support.
4. If you need a strong shoulder who will take care of you.
5. If you realize that you have had too much laughs and fun for the past several years. You’ve been “chilling” in your careless life for too long and now it is time for changes.
6. If you think that paying for yourself is not sexy and paying for him is a major turn off.
7. If gourmet dinners are part of your lifestyle and you absolutely can not live without expensive wines.
8. If the word “happy hour” sounds scary to you and you have no idea what labels you can find below top shelf.
9. If you don’t want to have kids or you are done with parenting.
10. If your kids are grown up and next time you will be willing to babysit is when your grandkids are born.
11. If you have no intention to compete with women who are ten to twenty years junior than you are.
12. If you believe that youth is unbeatable.
13. If you live in “Cinderella time” and usually turn into a pumpkin after midnght.
14. If age is one of the most sensitive subjects for you.
15. If the idea of your next birthday coming up gives you cold chills and the best gift you can dream of is a fake ID with a significantly younger age.
16. If you are looking to spend most of your time having deep conversations with a person who is at least on the same level as you (but preferably higher).
17. If you look at his gorgeous, young physique and it makes you feel jealous, old, and out of shape.
18. If you are shocked that he plays the same video games that you bought your son last month.
Dating Older Men
The “dating older men” situation goes from century to century. Younger women are dating older men all over the world.
There are multiple reasons for this. Some reasons are psychological. For example, this happens when a woman grew up without a father or when she loved her father so much that she started looking for someone exactly like him. Other reasons are strictly materialistic when women begin looking for financial security and stability. Younger men won’t be able to secure them life and provide them with the level of life they is looking for.
Some women just fall in love with older men without any reasons. However, most of the time those men are successful and powerful and nothing can be sexier for a woman than a “man being a real man”.
Dating older men has its own pros and cons.
PROS:
1. You will always feel young and hot.
2. You can have an intelligent and sophisticated conversation.
3. You can not only share your problems, but expect his help.
4. He will happily accept your kids.
5. He will be knowledgeable and sophisticated in sex.
6. He will pay for you during the dining and entertainment and might simply support you financially.
7. You don’t have to worry too much that he will leave you for a younger woman because you are the younger woman.
CONS:
1. You will feel an immediate difference between him and your young, hot friends who are your age or younger.
2. With his age, he has his strong beliefs that usually always come along with strong judgment and opinions.
3. He will not only give you a set of rules to follow, but will demand to do what he says.
4. He might come severely packaged with kids and ex wives that he takes care of.
5. He might not last as long as a young boyfriend during sex.
6. If he pays for you, he might expect you to follow his rules and demands. Free cheese can only be found in mouse traps.
7. There is no guarantee that he won’t leave you for a woman who is younger than you are. This is the rule of “done it once” – if someone has done something once, he will do it again.
Tips for dating older men:
1. Look as young as you can – your looks were one of the major reasons he was attracted to you.
2. Don’t try to pretend being smarter than you are. He knows exactly how smart you are. He also probably has a lot of smart women in his office, so he is not looking for the most intelligent conversation in the world.
3. Be understanding about his kids, grand kids, ex wives, and elderly parents.
4. Don’t ask him to pay for you or help you financially. If he doesn’t know it by his age, he is not worth your time and attention.
5. Be patient in bed. He might experience some difficulties only because of the thought of how young and hot you are. He will feel under the pressure to satisfy you.
6. Don’t invite him to places that are not age appropriate. There is nothing that can look more pathetic than a sweating grandfather shaking himself in a night club.
7. Remember, if he is older now, he will become much older in ten and twenty years and age comes with a lot of illnesses. If you are not looking to be a nurse for the following years to come, stick to younger men.
Dating Wealthy Men
Dating wealthy men requires some serious skills, flexibility, and intuition if you are not rich and if you don’t belong to the same social circle. The definition of “wealthy man” is relative. Some women believe that a man who makes a hundred or two hundred thousand dollars a year and works in a corporate job is wealthy. In reality, most of those men are just several paychecks away from being homeless because the economy is tough and an executive position is hard to find.
Let’s talk about men who make about a million plus dollars a year. (We aren’t going to discuss dating billionaires because this is a totally separate topic. There are chances to marry a billionaire. They are about as big as jumping off a plane without a parachute and landing on both feet with a smile if you are not an A-list actress, super model, internet queen, or a sister or daughter of a billionaire’s business partner.
What qualities are the most attractive for wealthy men?
Believe it or not, but B & B (Beauty & Brains) are not the most important qualities in the “wealthy men hunting process.” They are definitely very important. However, your look is the most important for the first impression.
A FEW TIPS FOR WOMEN WHO WANT TO DATE WEALTHY MEN
- You don’t have to be absolutely beautiful. You have to be polished and stylish. Great physical shape is a must because wealthy men believe that they have to have all the best and the image of “the best” has been formed by magazines for years. If you don’t live in Hollywood or Manhattan, you might be able to get away with size 10 (otherwise, 0 to 4, baby).
- You have to be fearless and spontaneous because you have to react quickly and unpredictably. They are so used to the fact that most women would be willing to jump through hoops to be with them which is why you must stand out. In order to be different, you have to intrigue them. The way to intrigue them depends on each case. However, the simplest trick that works is “to be uncatchable while you are catching him.
- You should not ask him for anything and show that you are independent. However, you don’t have to pretend that you are at the same level. Yes, it’s ok that you’ve been eating cabbage and riding your bicycle to work for the last month. However, you have been saving to start your own babysitting business in your apartment or making custom designed purses from your old jeans. It does not matter. The most important thing is that you are an independent woman with dreams.
- The same thing goes for dining out. Never be afraid to offer to buy him a cup of Starbucks coffee after the lobster and collectible red wine dinner he treated you with. Don’t forget about popcorn at the movies. Show him that you care.
- Dating wealthy men takes lots of patience because he will be constantly busy – either with business (if he owns one), his job, or his family (if he is from a rich family). Dating wealthy men is like a safari – dangerous and time consuming, but rewarding if you don’t get eaten up.
- Dating wealthy men is like a great sales process – find out what his needs are and provide him with them.
- Dating wealthy men is exhausting because you always have to look good, follow his schedule, listen to his opinions, and agree with his judgment.
Dating wealthy men can be extremely rewarding in the long term only if you get his full attention. Otherwise, you might end up being “one of those” ladies who are lining up after wealthy men in hopes of being chosen and given a good life.
There is a simple math – the “wealthy men” to “women who would like to get a wealthy man” ratio shows that there are not enough wealthy men for everyone. That is why they are picky and choosy, and that’s why you have to really stand out to get their attention.
Dating Poor Men
Dating a poor man is a common topic with the current economy. Dating a poor man is about your choice. Of course, we all know that money won’t buy happiness. However, the absence of money can totally kill all romance and feelings.
Even if a woman believes that “money is not important”, she won’t disagree that going places is better than spending every evening at home, receiving gifts and having a nice dinner in a romantic place while drinking nice wine is more fun than eating chips on the couch while drinking cheap stuff that will give you a headache.
Every woman sees her dating scene as an unavoidable chore on the way to her beautiful relationship and future marriage. Do you see yourself as a poor loser’s wife? Then go ahead and date a poor man.
Of course, there are different circumstances. For example, someone lost his job and has spent two years trying to find another one. Different people have different situations. History knows lots of stories when someone became filthy rich after he struggled for years. However, don’t be fooled by history. Before dating a poor man, calculate. What is the percentage of poor men
who became very rich? Exactly!
Of course, if you are both in college, there is nothing wrong to have a meal every other time while working on your degrees. However, if you are in your forties, and your man is unable (or hardly able) to support himself, there is a major red flag.
If you date a poor man with a gorgeous body and you are totally honest with yourself that sex is the only thing you two both have in common, then go ahead and keep dating.
However, if you spend years working on your career and the future, you deserve better. Also, remember, that poor men have very low self-esteem and if someone has a low-self esteem this person is usually tense, judgmental, opinionated, and just rude most of the time.
Dating is about being happy and having a good time. What kind of a good time can you have if you are with someone who is insecure and negative?
If a man says he is not interested in money, there is something severely wrong with him. It can mean two things. First of all, he already tried and could not figure out how to make a decent living. Secondly, he probably honestly believes that he does not have to bother in order to keep a good woman. If you are fine with both points of view, you are welcome to spend your time with this man.
Dating a poor man can be a very painful experience because you will feel deprived at times. There are numerous examples of when “a love boat” crushed into waves of poverty.
If you are looking to get married and have kids, it is NOT normal to accept the fact of being poor. What’s normal is to wish your kids not only have lots of love, but great medical care, material things, and education.
When dating a poor man, you put yourself in situation where you have to deprive yourself of many things sooner or later. We all know that physical attraction will fade in a couple of years and then you will see the difference between your lifestyle and lifestyle of wealthier people very clearly.
Should you date a poor man? The answer is yes, if you don’t care about being socially and materialistically deprived. If you would like to be around a person with low self-esteem (that will cause him to be sarcastic and even angry), please, go ahead.
If you don’t want to be in the situation listed above, please, consider other candidates.
PS. A word of caution. We are discussing the dating situation here. If you are in a long term relationship or married, you should remember that when you are committed to your boyfriend or husband, it means that you committed to be with him under any circumstances. The difference between dating and committed relationships is your possibilities to make choices easier.
If you decide to leave your boyfriend (husband) because he becomes broke, it is a betrayal, but it is your choice not to commit to a poor man in the first place.
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