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5 NLP Techniques That Will Transform Your Life

NLP Technique no 1. – Dissociation
Sometimes you tend to react to something in a negative way which causes stress, depression or other negative emotions. For example, the behaviour of your partner drives you crazy or you get angry when someone says some particular word. This NLP technique will help you neutralise negative emotions that get triggered by such situations.
This NLP technique even cures phobias because it lets the person see the situation as an observer and that allows him/her to objectively assess it. Then the person sees how he/she over exaggerated the situation and stops overreacting in the future.

Here’s what you need to do to achieve the dissociation effect:

1.Identify what emotion you want to get rid of, be it fear of spiders, uneasiness about some kind of person or dislike of some place.

2.See yourself encountering the situation from start to finish, as an observer. In other words, see yourself encountering the situation from the second position.

3.Play the same mental movie backwards, then fast-forward it and then play it backwards again.

4.Play it backwards and then add a funny music to the mental movie. Do this 3-4 times.

5.Now try to see in your mind the same event like it was happening to you now. The emotions towards the stimulus should have disappeared or changed. If you still feel some kind of negative emotion, keep repeating this exercise until the negative emotion has completely disappeared.



NLP Technique no 2. – Content Reframe

This NLP technique works great when you are in a situation which makes you feel disempowered, angry or when something negative happens to you. It changes the meaning of the situation making you think about it in a different, more positive and empowering way. So basically it allows you to put the content of the situation in a different frame.
Let’s say that you have just got fired from your job. That seems very bad when you think about it, but be willing to see other aspects of the situation. Because you lost your job, you now became open for better positions and you will be able to explore different kinds of areas of work that will let you develop your other skills. This experience will also toughen you up and you will become a more courageous person. And when you look back at this incident after 10 years, you will simply laugh about it.

In this example I simply reframed the content of what has happened. I’ve changed your view about the situation and took your focus off the bad aspects to the good ones. This lets you see the situation in a completely new light and you will be able to make better decisions because you will now focus on good aspects of the situation. So you will think of solutions with faith and not with fear.

What people tend to do in such unexpected situations is panic and think fear-based thoughts. That can lead only to more problems and failures. You should take your focus out of the negative aspects of the situation and look for the benefits of the situation. There are always good and bad points of any situation and it’s much more useful to focus on the good ones.


NLP Technique no 3. – Anchoring
Anchoring can be used for many purposes. It is mainly used in NLP to elicit some kind of emotional response to something that you do or say. For example, it is possible for the person to start unconsciously smiling when you touch his/her shoulder.
It is a very useful NLP technique because you can instantly change how the person feels. This helps in many situations, especially when the person feels insecure or upset. You can simply anchor a positive emotional response and fire the anchor whenever you see the person getting upset.

Here’s a basic way of how to do that.

1. Identify the state you want the person to experience, be it happiness, courage or something else.

2. Do whatever it takes for the person to get into such state (you can, for example, tell a story that will lead the person to your desired emotional state).

3. When you see that the person is completely in the state, touch him/her and hold the position for a few seconds. Remember the exact area that you’ve touched.

4. Then take your hand off the other person and say something unrelated to take the person’s mind off the subject.

5. Then, after a few minutes, touch exactly the same area again and monitor the response. If the process has been successful, the person should have the same emotional response as the one you wanted him/her to have.



NLP Technique no.4 – Rapport
Rapport is a very important and quite easy skill to master that enables you to get along with any kind of person.

There are many ways to create rapport with people. You can follow the breathing patterns of a person, you can mirror his/her body language (not too obviously, of course) or you can use similar words that the other person uses.

You can also assess the person’s main sensory perception, be it visual, kinaesthetic or auditory and then use the same perception yourself. You can do that by simply talking to the person and paying attention to what kind of words the person uses.

You know that the person’s main sensory perception is auditory when she uses phrases/words such as:
“I hear you”
“Her voice was loud”
“He scratched the surface”
“I’m listening to you”
sound
beeping
ticking
noise

You know that the person’s main sensory perception is visual when she uses phrases/words such as:
“I see what you mean”
“My vision is clear”
“Your future is bright”
big
dark
orange
square

You know that the person’s main sensory perception is kinaesthetic when he uses phrases/words such as:
“I feel that it’s the right thing to do”
“I have a bad feeling about this”
“She had a pleasant vibe”
warm
cool
sandy
wet
touch



NLP Technique no.5 – Belief Change
There are three types of limiting beliefs:
Beliefs about cause
Beliefs about meaning
Beliefs about identity

They all influence how you view the world and filter out the bits of reality that doesn’t fit into your belief system. Your beliefs allow you to become aware of the aspects of reality that are in harmony with them. As you can see, beliefs are very powerful because they determine what experiences you will have in life.

Beliefs form because of the “facts” that you encounter relating to some experience. If you’ve had some negative experience and you dwelled on it, you would then start attracting more similar experiences that would reaffirm your “rightness” about the situation.

If you could straight away do a content reframe, you will not have formed the belief in the first place. But what most people do is keep dwelling on the bad stuff that happened to them and then they are surprised when they keep encountering similar situations.

Any situation is neither good nor bad, only your thinking makes it so. So when you focus on the negative aspects of what has happened to you, you start forming a negative (which is always limiting) belief which will cause you to attract the experiences that would only affirm your limiting beliefs. So you are as though attracting “facts” that further deepen your negative beliefs.

If the experience was negative and you focused on it, now you’ve set a filter for only negative “facts” to come through about such experience. For example, if you’ve been in a bad relationship you start thinking that all men/women are the same.

To change such limiting beliefs you will need to gather more positive facts about the situation than your current negative facts. Then you will need to deal with negative facts and question if they really are “facts”.

Another way to eliminate negative beliefs is to spend five minutes a day affirming a completely different belief to your current one. This should be done when it’s quiet and you should completely focus on the affirmation. You should have no other thoughts or mental pictures in your head when you affirm your new belief. You should completely focus on your words and understand their meaning, rather than thinking about something else whilst affirming beliefs.
This is an extremely effective exercise because it allows you to lightly hypnotise yourself by entirely focusing on one sentence. Because of the induced hypnosis all the new beliefs go directly to your unconscious mind which is responsible for making your beliefs and thoughts a reality.

If you do this effectively, after 30 days or even earlier your life will start reflecting the new belief.

Conclusion
If done properly, these five NLP techniques can change many aspects of your life. If some technique doesn’t seem to produce the desired effect, keep repeating the exercise until the wanted effect is reached.

These NLP techniques are very effective and work on everyone. It’s definitely worth taking a few minutes to try at least a couple of them. When you see the results, you will be more than happy to spend some time to apply them to the areas of your life that need improvement.