“It
is true, that I very very rarely do interviews,” Neil explains, thirty
seconds into our conversation. Using the word “very” twice in a row
means business. And yet it’s true. Upon the hundreds of pages brought up
in Google for the search terms “Neil Strauss interview” there were only
about a dozen with original content, mostly written from 2005-2006.
While most articles quickly dub Neil as a rock critic, writer or
seduction guru, these labels only scratch the surface when trying to
encompass Neil Strauss’s identity.
In many ways, Neil is a modern renaissance man. Throughout the 20 minute phone interview, any topics were brought up, Neil navigated through confidently and effortlessly, bringing in his own ideas and beliefs along the way. From discussing creative writing to pornography, philosophy to Mötley Crüe, it seems, Neil is the intersection of a wild set of interests.
“I reread Ulysses every three years,” Neil explains to me casually over the phone, when asked about his biggest influence. “I’ve read it so many times, I can almost teach it. To me, it’s like the Rosetta Stone of modern literature,” he continues. Neil chooses his words delicately, crafting his sentences exactly how he wants them. “It’s my biggest influence without a doubt…and [pause] I mean… I’ll say inspiration, because influence almost sounds like, I can even ever hope to attain his level of writing or intelligence.”
Strauss was introduced to Ulysses in high school by a passionate professor who reshaped his perceptions of the power of storytelling. “That book to me, I was like- holy shit, I never knew that you could do that in a book. The story… there’s so much in here, it would take a lifetime and a genius to figure out all this stuff- let alone write it. I was just blown away that words could do that,” He explains passionately. Neil’s intellectual pursuit and thirst for knowledge are just some of the many traits that have made Neil Strauss so successful.
Neil actually stumbled into writing rather by coincidence, explaining that he just really wanted to be in New York. “I was in my dorm one day (at Vassar College) and this guy walked in and said he tried out for an internship at Ear magazine but they said he was too well dressed. Being poorly dressed and into music, I thought it was the perfect job for me.” Building a foundation at that little avant-garde music magazine, Neil gained the skills and experience to move up the magazine hierarchy within a few short years. Soon enough, Neil was writing for Village Voice, RollingStone and The New York Times, receiving prestigious praise and ASCAP-Deems Taylor Award along the way.
When asked if there was a point he believed he was going to be a writer, he offered his own theory, explaining “whatever you end up doing, you can find precedents for it, weather you become, a fireman, astronaut or soldier. You do so much shit as kids- you do everything and wanna be everything. I guess you can find precedents for everything.” Although he did write a detective book in middle school with a friend and sent it out to publishers, he didn’t seem to feel like it predicted his journey to becoming a writer. As Neil spoke, his voice would sometimes trail off in a quiet mumble, until we began actively chatting again. Because he had stayed up the entire night finishing his newest book, he seemed drained. Throughout the rest of the interview, the clarity of his voice continued to roll back and forth in waves, sometimes quiet and muffled, other times crisp and clear.
Once we got to the topic of his new book, his voice rolled right back. “It’s not about rock and roll, or girls. It’s not about anything I’ve written about before.” He stated proudly. “It’s definitely a different topic and something about I’ve been working on for two years in secret. The cultural moment is right for the book right now.” The words Iraq War, Economic stability, and George Bush immediately flash through my mind. In the past, every book Neil has been involved with has somehow revolved around sex, drugs, and rock and roll; most of the time all three. This book would indeed be different. When I pushed him for further detail, he didn’t budge, but genuinely insisted “Ill be curious, you’ll have to let me know what you think about it”. I believed him.
Throughout the interview, the conversation flowed rather naturally, sometimes running more like a casual conversation then an interview. Once we started to discuss Neil’s relationship with Jenna Jameson, his words become more carefully chosen. It’s clear he didn’t want anything to be misinterpreted. “ I wrote, I wrote.. [long pause]. So, I really didn’t know a lot about porn…,” he continues, starting a story, avoiding giving direct information. As our conversation progresses I learn that Neil was more involved then just co-writing her book. He wrote a script for an adult film, and even made an appearance in one (fully clothed). When I asked for further details, he answered “I can’t say” almost apologetically. It sounded like he wanted to genuinely tell me, but I knew it was more important for him to protect his privacy. When thousands of men all over the world dissect and study your every word, movement and gesture, you can never be too careful.
“I recently started a publishing company in my spare time, called Igniter,” he explains as we move onto less controversial topics. “It’s with a guy named Anthony Berger, who does a bunch of rock books. We started this publishing company together, for kinda cool, really hard edge memoirs. Some of the stuff is so extreme, that you can barely even call it sexy,” he explains honestly. Spare time, I think. Between writing books and articles, coaching legions of men, running a book club, and being an overall celebrity, there didn’t seem like a lot of room to play. “I either play really hard, or work really hard.” He explains. “I’ve been working really hard for the past few months. So I’m going to start playing really hard in about 3 weeks once this thing goes to print. To me, the only way to get shit done is to have a real solid hard deadline. Unless I have an editor calling me up and telling me, there gonna kill me and my firstborn child, if I don’t get the book in two weeks. That’s the best way to get something done. A deadline with real hard world consequences.” It makes sense. Even when I want to write, I have trouble just sitting at the computer, I explain to him.
“Maybe you can just start a company for writers, where you give them a deadline with consequences. [laughs] If you don’t turn it in by that date, you give them the consequences…You poison their dog, [laugh], take there entire CD collection, wipe out their hard drive,” Neil conjures up. “You’ll be like… the deadline adjuster,” he says giddily. I start to ask my next question, but Neil’s mind is still running. “Or like a deadline enforcer,” he says before I start my next sentence. “Get the URL right now. Deadlineenforcer.com,” he chuckles. It sounds like a wrestler, I admit.
It is at this point where I realize when it comes down to it, Neil Strauss is who he truly represents himself to be. He is nice, he is genuine, and yes- he is abit nerdy. The time Neil spent being a self proclaimed geek actually seems like a blessing in disguise. It gave him the time to develop his mind, his work, and his career. And now that all his puzzle pieces are in place, there doesn’t seem to be a lot that Neil cannot accomplish.
This work was originally published from SUNY New Paltz.
經過我資料收集及分析後，求出一個結論：有兩種女人最容易吸引到男人，一種是正妹（以外型取勝）；一種是有女人味的女人（以雌性賀爾蒙及溫柔體貼取勝）
不過，當我看了《把妹達人》，才驚覺我的結論只適用於童話世界裡，在《把妹達人》裡只要生理上擁有女人的第二性癥，就會成為男人床上的一夜嘉賓，印證了「有奶便是娘」這句話。
美國《君子雜誌》的評語是：「我絕不讓尼爾‧史特勞斯（本書作者）靠近我的老婆半步！」
這本書的前半部簡直就是「禽獸養成手冊」，你可以目睹一群男人如何鑽研把妹的技巧，發明了一堆把妹專用的術語，例如：
NEG否定—在最初認識美女時，用無意間的冒犯，來表示對她缺乏興趣。（欲擒故縱的老方法，不過卻能引起被動正妹的注意）
ASD蕩婦防衛機制—指有些女人用來拒絕性行為，或規避性行為後的責任歸屬，所使用的策略。
ANCHOR錨定—利用一件正面的生活事件來把自己跟女人的好感連結在一起，當你聽到一首歌你就會想起在夜店裡搭訕自己的帥哥。這其實是一種催眠技巧，很巧妙的繞過你的意識來博取認同及好感，可以在一開始鬆懈對方的心防！
好狡詐啊！我看了之後，忍不住咬牙切齒。
這些技巧中，大量運用了心理學的技巧，更賊的是：全是實戰經驗累積而來！
（簡直是男人的福音，女人的喪鐘。）
不過，身為一名女性，我不得不說，裡面有些招數真的是很容易搭訕到女人的（至少是我個人啦），譬如用一些天真又吸引人的問題作為開場：「天啊！你有看到外面打架的那兩個女人嗎？」或是「我想要問一下你的意見，我朋友的女友禁止他和前女友聯絡，我跟他打賭不是每個女人都這樣想，你覺得呢？」
好吧！這些問題，尤其是後者很容易會吸引到我的注意，依照我「好奇心害死貓」的性格，一定會被有趣又稀奇古怪的問題給吸引過去，更何況，女人有八卦的天性。
這些搭訕的開場白比某某自稱是搭訕教主的「嗨！你是老師嗎？」、「嗨，我從剛剛就注意到你了…」來得高招一些，要是有人問我這些問題，我大概很快會把他歸類到「豬哥」那塊上。
女人都喜歡被搭訕，但是要不著痕跡的搭訕，一旦男人透露出欣賞的意圖，正妹很容易就拿翹，而平凡女很容易受驚。
在追求的過程中，每個女人都希望自己是最特別的，足以讓男人浪子回頭，癡情絕對的拿一生交換，而不是露水姻緣的對象。
我 個人對男人學習把妹的行為是很讚許的，男人有狩獵的天性，如果你硬逼他放棄弓箭，拿起鵝毛筆，恐怕被逼瘋的不只一個人，但要是，男人只把女人當做獵物或是 玩具，就算能在戰場上勝出，最後獲得的只會是無止盡的虛無。（靈性與獸性必須並存，更何況有一天，隨著年老色衰，獸性無用了，你也只能靠靈性存活）
但，如果你只看到這本書大大的書腰文案「方法用對，沒有把不到的妹」，或是只看到前半部的「禽獸養成手冊」，就以為這本書僅僅著重於把妹技巧上，那就太糟蹋這本書了。
（而且，我何必浪費心力寫一篇把妹手冊的批判文，這跟闖入天體營大罵那些不穿衣服的人厚顏無恥一樣的莫名其妙）
《把妹達人》的作者尼爾自稱是個一點魅力都沒有的拙男，他從青春期開始，就在異性交往上遭逢挫折，他總是又妒又羨的看著那些左擁右抱的男人，「花花公子創辦人海夫納到八十歲還能交六個女朋友」對他而言根本就是神話。
然後，短短時間內，他徹頭徹尾的改變了，他創造了「型男」，光溜溜的頭、蒼白鬆垮的身體瞬間成了女人的最愛，靠著把妹技巧，他成功激發了男性的魅力。
地下的把妹社團開始蔓生，一個個毛頭小子把他當作榜樣在模仿，就像電影「鬥陣俱樂部」，他們有著自己的術語，同一套的開場白從美國西岸燃燒到東岸。
有人放棄了學業和事業，廢寢忘食的研究把妹技術。一群男人進入到夜店，然後各自帶著伴出來，經過一夜狂歡後，他們踢掉女伴，繼續尋找下一個上鉤的魚兒。
尼爾突然感到厭煩和疲憊，「男人想要的不是一個人，而是一具肉體，面對這個可能性，愛就蕩然無存。」
他愛上了一個女孩麗莎，一個無法理智的用把妹技巧來應付的女孩，一個會讓他像個青春期的純情少男不安惶恐的女孩。
劇情驟然急轉直下，「我們全都向外頭尋找我們缺少的部分，而且全都找錯了方向。我們不但沒有找到自己，反而還失去了自我感覺。」
那些知道如何吸引女人，卻不曾瞭解她們的把妹達人，突然露出一副大夢初醒的表情，把妹所帶來的快樂、自我超越、虛榮都無法滿足他們渴望被瞭解及撫慰的孤單。
夾雜的男性的自我覺醒及蛻變，那些曾經瘋狂浪蕩的人，有的出家修行，有的捨棄了高超的把妹招數，用最老套的鮮花、窗下彈吉他唱歌追求女性。
而型男尼爾，在經歷這不可思議的兩年後，他找到了真愛，
「我花了兩年時間認識洛杉磯每一個女人。在這麼多人當中，我選擇了妳。這麼久以來，這是我說過最美的一句話了。然而，在我說了之後，我發現這並不完全正確。如果我學到了任何事情，那就是：男人無法選擇女人，只能給她一個機會選擇他。」
這是個真實故事，看到結尾，我突然有種期待被滿足的愉悅。尼爾在最末的致謝詞寫著：「雖然過去兩年我已經學會了所有有關於吸引、誘惑和求愛的東西，但對於如何維持一段健康的關係，我卻什麼也沒學到。相處比把妹需要更多時間和努力，但這已經帶給我更多的滿足和喜悅了。也許是因為，這並不是遊戲。」
多麼多麼感人的話，我看了都快哭出來…這是一個猶如童話結尾的真實事件，男人終於找到他的靈魂伴侶，在經過大風大浪後，有情人終成眷屬…
我眼淚擦擦的，翻開了下一頁，純淨的白紙上，孤伶伶的印了三排字…
「譯註：此書於2005年出版，根據2006年2月19日的英國小報《周日鏡報》所報導，麗莎與作者已經分手。麗莎的下一任男友是壞小子羅比‧威廉斯。」
In many ways, Neil is a modern renaissance man. Throughout the 20 minute phone interview, any topics were brought up, Neil navigated through confidently and effortlessly, bringing in his own ideas and beliefs along the way. From discussing creative writing to pornography, philosophy to Mötley Crüe, it seems, Neil is the intersection of a wild set of interests.
“I reread Ulysses every three years,” Neil explains to me casually over the phone, when asked about his biggest influence. “I’ve read it so many times, I can almost teach it. To me, it’s like the Rosetta Stone of modern literature,” he continues. Neil chooses his words delicately, crafting his sentences exactly how he wants them. “It’s my biggest influence without a doubt…and [pause] I mean… I’ll say inspiration, because influence almost sounds like, I can even ever hope to attain his level of writing or intelligence.”
Strauss was introduced to Ulysses in high school by a passionate professor who reshaped his perceptions of the power of storytelling. “That book to me, I was like- holy shit, I never knew that you could do that in a book. The story… there’s so much in here, it would take a lifetime and a genius to figure out all this stuff- let alone write it. I was just blown away that words could do that,” He explains passionately. Neil’s intellectual pursuit and thirst for knowledge are just some of the many traits that have made Neil Strauss so successful.
Neil actually stumbled into writing rather by coincidence, explaining that he just really wanted to be in New York. “I was in my dorm one day (at Vassar College) and this guy walked in and said he tried out for an internship at Ear magazine but they said he was too well dressed. Being poorly dressed and into music, I thought it was the perfect job for me.” Building a foundation at that little avant-garde music magazine, Neil gained the skills and experience to move up the magazine hierarchy within a few short years. Soon enough, Neil was writing for Village Voice, RollingStone and The New York Times, receiving prestigious praise and ASCAP-Deems Taylor Award along the way.
When asked if there was a point he believed he was going to be a writer, he offered his own theory, explaining “whatever you end up doing, you can find precedents for it, weather you become, a fireman, astronaut or soldier. You do so much shit as kids- you do everything and wanna be everything. I guess you can find precedents for everything.” Although he did write a detective book in middle school with a friend and sent it out to publishers, he didn’t seem to feel like it predicted his journey to becoming a writer. As Neil spoke, his voice would sometimes trail off in a quiet mumble, until we began actively chatting again. Because he had stayed up the entire night finishing his newest book, he seemed drained. Throughout the rest of the interview, the clarity of his voice continued to roll back and forth in waves, sometimes quiet and muffled, other times crisp and clear.
Once we got to the topic of his new book, his voice rolled right back. “It’s not about rock and roll, or girls. It’s not about anything I’ve written about before.” He stated proudly. “It’s definitely a different topic and something about I’ve been working on for two years in secret. The cultural moment is right for the book right now.” The words Iraq War, Economic stability, and George Bush immediately flash through my mind. In the past, every book Neil has been involved with has somehow revolved around sex, drugs, and rock and roll; most of the time all three. This book would indeed be different. When I pushed him for further detail, he didn’t budge, but genuinely insisted “Ill be curious, you’ll have to let me know what you think about it”. I believed him.
Throughout the interview, the conversation flowed rather naturally, sometimes running more like a casual conversation then an interview. Once we started to discuss Neil’s relationship with Jenna Jameson, his words become more carefully chosen. It’s clear he didn’t want anything to be misinterpreted. “ I wrote, I wrote.. [long pause]. So, I really didn’t know a lot about porn…,” he continues, starting a story, avoiding giving direct information. As our conversation progresses I learn that Neil was more involved then just co-writing her book. He wrote a script for an adult film, and even made an appearance in one (fully clothed). When I asked for further details, he answered “I can’t say” almost apologetically. It sounded like he wanted to genuinely tell me, but I knew it was more important for him to protect his privacy. When thousands of men all over the world dissect and study your every word, movement and gesture, you can never be too careful.
“I recently started a publishing company in my spare time, called Igniter,” he explains as we move onto less controversial topics. “It’s with a guy named Anthony Berger, who does a bunch of rock books. We started this publishing company together, for kinda cool, really hard edge memoirs. Some of the stuff is so extreme, that you can barely even call it sexy,” he explains honestly. Spare time, I think. Between writing books and articles, coaching legions of men, running a book club, and being an overall celebrity, there didn’t seem like a lot of room to play. “I either play really hard, or work really hard.” He explains. “I’ve been working really hard for the past few months. So I’m going to start playing really hard in about 3 weeks once this thing goes to print. To me, the only way to get shit done is to have a real solid hard deadline. Unless I have an editor calling me up and telling me, there gonna kill me and my firstborn child, if I don’t get the book in two weeks. That’s the best way to get something done. A deadline with real hard world consequences.” It makes sense. Even when I want to write, I have trouble just sitting at the computer, I explain to him.
“Maybe you can just start a company for writers, where you give them a deadline with consequences. [laughs] If you don’t turn it in by that date, you give them the consequences…You poison their dog, [laugh], take there entire CD collection, wipe out their hard drive,” Neil conjures up. “You’ll be like… the deadline adjuster,” he says giddily. I start to ask my next question, but Neil’s mind is still running. “Or like a deadline enforcer,” he says before I start my next sentence. “Get the URL right now. Deadlineenforcer.com,” he chuckles. It sounds like a wrestler, I admit.
It is at this point where I realize when it comes down to it, Neil Strauss is who he truly represents himself to be. He is nice, he is genuine, and yes- he is abit nerdy. The time Neil spent being a self proclaimed geek actually seems like a blessing in disguise. It gave him the time to develop his mind, his work, and his career. And now that all his puzzle pieces are in place, there doesn’t seem to be a lot that Neil cannot accomplish.
This work was originally published from SUNY New Paltz.
經過我資料收集及分析後，求出一個結論：有兩種女人最容易吸引到男人，一種是正妹（以外型取勝）；一種是有女人味的女人（以雌性賀爾蒙及溫柔體貼取勝）
不過，當我看了《把妹達人》，才驚覺我的結論只適用於童話世界裡，在《把妹達人》裡只要生理上擁有女人的第二性癥，就會成為男人床上的一夜嘉賓，印證了「有奶便是娘」這句話。
美國《君子雜誌》的評語是：「我絕不讓尼爾‧史特勞斯（本書作者）靠近我的老婆半步！」
這本書的前半部簡直就是「禽獸養成手冊」，你可以目睹一群男人如何鑽研把妹的技巧，發明了一堆把妹專用的術語，例如：
NEG否定—在最初認識美女時，用無意間的冒犯，來表示對她缺乏興趣。（欲擒故縱的老方法，不過卻能引起被動正妹的注意）
ASD蕩婦防衛機制—指有些女人用來拒絕性行為，或規避性行為後的責任歸屬，所使用的策略。
ANCHOR錨定—利用一件正面的生活事件來把自己跟女人的好感連結在一起，當你聽到一首歌你就會想起在夜店裡搭訕自己的帥哥。這其實是一種催眠技巧，很巧妙的繞過你的意識來博取認同及好感，可以在一開始鬆懈對方的心防！
好狡詐啊！我看了之後，忍不住咬牙切齒。
這些技巧中，大量運用了心理學的技巧，更賊的是：全是實戰經驗累積而來！
（簡直是男人的福音，女人的喪鐘。）
不過，身為一名女性，我不得不說，裡面有些招數真的是很容易搭訕到女人的（至少是我個人啦），譬如用一些天真又吸引人的問題作為開場：「天啊！你有看到外面打架的那兩個女人嗎？」或是「我想要問一下你的意見，我朋友的女友禁止他和前女友聯絡，我跟他打賭不是每個女人都這樣想，你覺得呢？」
好吧！這些問題，尤其是後者很容易會吸引到我的注意，依照我「好奇心害死貓」的性格，一定會被有趣又稀奇古怪的問題給吸引過去，更何況，女人有八卦的天性。
這些搭訕的開場白比某某自稱是搭訕教主的「嗨！你是老師嗎？」、「嗨，我從剛剛就注意到你了…」來得高招一些，要是有人問我這些問題，我大概很快會把他歸類到「豬哥」那塊上。
女人都喜歡被搭訕，但是要不著痕跡的搭訕，一旦男人透露出欣賞的意圖，正妹很容易就拿翹，而平凡女很容易受驚。
在追求的過程中，每個女人都希望自己是最特別的，足以讓男人浪子回頭，癡情絕對的拿一生交換，而不是露水姻緣的對象。
我 個人對男人學習把妹的行為是很讚許的，男人有狩獵的天性，如果你硬逼他放棄弓箭，拿起鵝毛筆，恐怕被逼瘋的不只一個人，但要是，男人只把女人當做獵物或是 玩具，就算能在戰場上勝出，最後獲得的只會是無止盡的虛無。（靈性與獸性必須並存，更何況有一天，隨著年老色衰，獸性無用了，你也只能靠靈性存活）
但，如果你只看到這本書大大的書腰文案「方法用對，沒有把不到的妹」，或是只看到前半部的「禽獸養成手冊」，就以為這本書僅僅著重於把妹技巧上，那就太糟蹋這本書了。
（而且，我何必浪費心力寫一篇把妹手冊的批判文，這跟闖入天體營大罵那些不穿衣服的人厚顏無恥一樣的莫名其妙）
《把妹達人》的作者尼爾自稱是個一點魅力都沒有的拙男，他從青春期開始，就在異性交往上遭逢挫折，他總是又妒又羨的看著那些左擁右抱的男人，「花花公子創辦人海夫納到八十歲還能交六個女朋友」對他而言根本就是神話。
然後，短短時間內，他徹頭徹尾的改變了，他創造了「型男」，光溜溜的頭、蒼白鬆垮的身體瞬間成了女人的最愛，靠著把妹技巧，他成功激發了男性的魅力。
地下的把妹社團開始蔓生，一個個毛頭小子把他當作榜樣在模仿，就像電影「鬥陣俱樂部」，他們有著自己的術語，同一套的開場白從美國西岸燃燒到東岸。
有人放棄了學業和事業，廢寢忘食的研究把妹技術。一群男人進入到夜店，然後各自帶著伴出來，經過一夜狂歡後，他們踢掉女伴，繼續尋找下一個上鉤的魚兒。
尼爾突然感到厭煩和疲憊，「男人想要的不是一個人，而是一具肉體，面對這個可能性，愛就蕩然無存。」
他愛上了一個女孩麗莎，一個無法理智的用把妹技巧來應付的女孩，一個會讓他像個青春期的純情少男不安惶恐的女孩。
劇情驟然急轉直下，「我們全都向外頭尋找我們缺少的部分，而且全都找錯了方向。我們不但沒有找到自己，反而還失去了自我感覺。」
那些知道如何吸引女人，卻不曾瞭解她們的把妹達人，突然露出一副大夢初醒的表情，把妹所帶來的快樂、自我超越、虛榮都無法滿足他們渴望被瞭解及撫慰的孤單。
夾雜的男性的自我覺醒及蛻變，那些曾經瘋狂浪蕩的人，有的出家修行，有的捨棄了高超的把妹招數，用最老套的鮮花、窗下彈吉他唱歌追求女性。
而型男尼爾，在經歷這不可思議的兩年後，他找到了真愛，
「我花了兩年時間認識洛杉磯每一個女人。在這麼多人當中，我選擇了妳。這麼久以來，這是我說過最美的一句話了。然而，在我說了之後，我發現這並不完全正確。如果我學到了任何事情，那就是：男人無法選擇女人，只能給她一個機會選擇他。」
這是個真實故事，看到結尾，我突然有種期待被滿足的愉悅。尼爾在最末的致謝詞寫著：「雖然過去兩年我已經學會了所有有關於吸引、誘惑和求愛的東西，但對於如何維持一段健康的關係，我卻什麼也沒學到。相處比把妹需要更多時間和努力，但這已經帶給我更多的滿足和喜悅了。也許是因為，這並不是遊戲。」
多麼多麼感人的話，我看了都快哭出來…這是一個猶如童話結尾的真實事件，男人終於找到他的靈魂伴侶，在經過大風大浪後，有情人終成眷屬…
我眼淚擦擦的，翻開了下一頁，純淨的白紙上，孤伶伶的印了三排字…
「譯註：此書於2005年出版，根據2006年2月19日的英國小報《周日鏡報》所報導，麗莎與作者已經分手。麗莎的下一任男友是壞小子羅比‧威廉斯。」
尼爾．史特勞斯的「把妹達人」，恐怕是影響世界上男人最大的一本書。而尼爾本身，恐怕也是世界上最有名的把妹達人。
尼爾出生於1973年，他在念大學的時候就已經開始為雜誌出版社寫作，而畢業之後，他擔任記者與政論寫作者，後來為滾石音樂寫音樂評論，並且為華納音樂的許多藝人寫類似傳記文學的文章，有名的藝人包括瑪麗蓮．曼森，與女神卡卡(Lady GaGa)
他其實是個腦筋很好的人，身為一個才華洋溢的文學作家，並且與許多知名藝人往來，社交圈想必也十分豐富。他有身為把妹達人的本錢，只是他當時並不知道。
更有趣的是，他進入把妹社群，其實並不是為了學把妹。當時他進入把妹社群，其實只是為了在紐約時代雜誌寫一篇報導，只是不小心歪打正著，他不但寫出了排行第一的暢銷書籍 ，更搖身一變成為最強的把妹達人。
他若沒有進入把妹進群，我想他現在應該還是像右邊那個樣子，可見後天的改造有多重要。
而托他的福(?)，把妹社群的達人們一個一個浮出了檯面，一下子這門學問從隱晦變成了顯學。他在書中所寫的慣例，包含了誰比較愛說謊開場白、立方體測試，戒指慣例，好朋友測試，也變成了不可不知的把妹秘密。
他所學所用的，著重在外在遊戲，就是以標準流程和慣例一步一步讓女孩子躺到你的床 上，(他所用的流程和慣例我之後會再介紹)，你如果用心研究他的作法，你會發現他的目標和對象，幾乎都是在酒吧或是舞廳認識，而在交歡之後，他也沒有能力 去維持一段感情。一方面是他並沒有遇到讓他願意定下來的女人，一方面是他沒有學。
而他的"前"女友，麗莎，也是在同樣的場合，同樣的方式。
當2005出書的時候，他還沒有和麗莎分開，我那時候心裡好奇的想：他真的有辦法維持一段感情嗎？
果不其然，最後還是分手了。
雖然他和麗莎分開了，但是他的把妹事業還沒有停止，他後來出了「殺無赦方法」(Annihilation method)，而型男生活訓練(Stylelife academy)是他後來設立的一家把妹教學公司，而他 在之後也出了本稱作把妹規則(Rules of the game)的書，裡面的內容就是將型男生活訓練的「三十天改造課程」稍加濃縮改版之後推出的作品，而裡頭另一部分則是寫他在把妹生活中不為人知的黑暗面， 我看了之後心想，應該不止這樣吧，我以前過得比他還黑暗(默)，把妹學真是一個不歸路啊，還好我有及時煞車，往另一個方向前進，這是後話。
最後附上一段影片，是他教導立方體(the cube)的情況。
體會一下大師風範
我讀過尼爾在把妹社群的所有貼文，可以看到一個完全的門外漢變成把妹導師的完整過 程，他在社群的第一篇文章是：「我覺得中國的孫子兵法可以拿來當成把妹的指引」，滿有趣的，而他在社群中在謎男(Mystery)的帶領之下，成長得很快 (超快)，也看得出來他很努力學習，他每次巡視之後一定貼巡視報告，他一開始的報告都是失敗或是沒有結果居多，而後來就如大家所知道的，在一場巡視後一戰 成名，之後他也開始熱心的回答其它新手的問題，並不因為學成就趾高氣揚，或是咄咄逼人，他的一些態度的確值得我們學習。
好啦，先說到這裡，我想「把妹達人」一書中文版出了之後，應該大家都了解如何使用這個慣例，如果有人對立方體有所疑問的話，歡迎回應詢問，我會一一解答。
或是你看完這篇文章有任何想法，請在下面留下你的觀點，我很希望聽到大家的聲音。
我希望將來把尼爾的把妹知識：包含他的殺無赦方法、型男生活訓練、和他在社群中的活動寫成導讀和大家分享。
Bibiography Neil Strauss
 Strauss in January 2009 |
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| Born | October 13, 1973 Illinois[1] |
|---|---|
| Nationality | American |
| Other names | Style, Chris Powles |
| Citizenship | American, Kittitian |
| Occupation | Writer |
| Notable work(s) | The Game: Penetrating the Secret Society of Pickup Artists |
Neil Darrow Strauss (born October 13, 1973), also known by the pen names Style and Chris Powles, is an American author, journalist and ghostwriter, with both American and Kittitian citizenship.[2]. He is best known for his best-selling book The Game: Penetrating the Secret Society of Pickup Artists, where he describes his experiences in the seduction community in an effort to become a "pick-up artist." He is a contributing editor at Rolling Stone and also writes regularly for The New York Times.
The Game and the seduction community
After leaving The New York Times to ghostwrite Jenna Jameson's memoirs, Strauss joined a sub-culture of pick-up artists known as the seduction community, publishing an article in the New York Times about his experiences in 2004.[9] In 2005, he published The Game: Penetrating the Secret Society of Pickup Artists (Regan Books, 2005), a book about his transformation into "Style", a pickup artist under the tutelage of Mystery. In addition to documenting his experiences with pickup artists like Mystery, Steve P, Rasputin (Hypnotica) and Ross Jeffries, it also describes his seductive interactions with celebrities including Britney Spears,[10] Tom Cruise, and Courtney Love. Strauss writes of his distrust of pickup artists "Tyler Durden" and "Papa", the co-founders of Real Social Dynamics.
The book made a month-long appearance in the New York Times bestsellers list in September–October 2005, and reached the #1 position on Amazon.com immediately after its release in the United States. Strauss appeared on various TV shows, including The View and ABC Primetime, and he participated in many book signings.[11][12] It was optioned to be made into a film by Spyglass Entertainment, with Chris Weitz adapting and producing.[13]
Alexandra Jacobs noted there was an awkward switch between misogynistic
comments and feeble self-awareness and also wrote "But he does come to
perceive one curious thing about the P.U.A.'s: They seem far more
interested in spending time with fellow P.U.A.'s, amassing, refining and
discussing the game, than actually getting to know women. Call them
S.L.B.'s (scared little boys)".[14]
After publishing the book, Strauss temporarily retired as a pickup
artist and settled with a longtime girlfriend Lisa Leveridge, who played
guitar in Courtney Love's all-female band The Chelsea.[15]
An article in the Sunday Mirror, suggested that Leveridge broke up with Strauss in February 2006 to date Robbie Williams.[16][dead link] Strauss denied the Williams rumor, but confirmed his breakup with Leveridge on his mailing list a few months later.
His follow-up book, a controversial graphic novel How to Make Money Like a Porn Star,
came out in 2006 on September 26. By 2006 Neil Strauss also came out
with "Shoot", a short film about becoming a rockstar that he co-wrote,
directed and performed in. That same year, in collaboration with Dave
Navarro and Entourage writer Cliff Dorfman, he created a one-hour TV drama The Product for FX.[17] In 2007, he released a follow-up to The Game, Rules of the Game, a two-book boxed set.
Strauss has continued to be involved with pickup artistry through his
dating coaching company Stylelife Academy. Stylelife was founded in
2007 and whilst most of the coaching is done by employed coaches other
than himself, Strauss does make appearances at yearly conferences and in
some video products sold by the company.[18]
In 2012, Strauss released a board game/party game as a follow up to
"The Game" and "Rules of the Game" called "Who's Got Game? The Game with
Benefits."[19]
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